Honest Answers Things that would help me lead a more fulfilling life if I learn them.
I am angry because{thoughts in red} The anger is not useful because {response in blue} -Life is not fair Actually it is what it is and overreacting only helps sometimes but usually not,as in Road Rage, instead let's work to have clarity and to accept reality, to use the energy to be creative.
-I really screwed things up. Maybe, but we don't have to be perfect, there's always something to be done in every situation to make the best of it, { or does your inner parent really want to sabotage things that badly?}
-Other People Other people are what make life a rich experience, if I blame everyone else angrily then I am alone and not in tune with the flow.This can't help anyway so let's be more effectively with people.
Wait, does that mean we need to learn to channel our anger into creative responses,
in a word yes, learn it in therapy, meditation spirituality
or all the above but learn it please, it could really help.
What do you mean by using words like go with the flow and "inner parent"?
That like the philosopher said {I believe it was Sartre} we don't need therapy if we are totally honest with ourselves. Wait that turns out be really hard because the conditioning. environment and heredity that we have has caused us to weave comforting and deep illusions into our responses to reality. That is not fair or it's all my fault or somebody else's........ oh that's why it's hard to be honest?
Yes, it takes a while to change and it's hard work, but that's OK The reverse is worse.
updated 6/21/2008.
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